Staying in her current marriage… she just couldn’t see it.
This was marriage number two. At the time, it seemed like the perfect fit: stable, healthy, and safe. The first marriage was to an addict who was unpredictable and abusive. Meg* divorced him before her son turned three. The thought of raising a child alone was more than she could handle.
Fast forward 15+ years in to the second marriage. Her husband was minimally engaged in raising their two girls and adopted son (her other son now grown and on his own). The house chores and upkeep fell solely on Meg’s shoulders. Anniversaries were just a formality – awkward and strained… and holidays felt empty.
Meg’s husband simply worked and wasted his life away on the couch. He micro-managed her spending and never initiated any family outings or alone time with his wife. The intimacy was long gone and their communication minimal. She found his lack of inspiration and joy stifling, maddening, and soul sucking. She resented him and felt trapped.
Feeling all alone in her circumstances.
She dreaded her home life and buried herself in community volunteer work and motherhood. She was essentially raising her two teenage girls and adopted son alone.
Two of her three part-time jobs were ungratifying and dead-end. They were more of a distraction than anything.
She was a transplant from the East coast with strained family relations, and many of her friendships here felt superficial and guarded, having been recently betrayed by someone she trusted.
Registering the effects of a life in transition.
Meg’s own health had been horribly neglected over the last decade.
She struggled to maintain a healthy weight, began experiencing chronic pain, and was uninspired to take better care of herself.
While battling fatigue and depression, she gradually withdrew from her social circles. Meg was bitter, isolated, and had no passion for the future.
After the death of her adopted son, Meg realized she needed to make a change.
A safe place to share struggles, gain clarity, and explore better options.
Initially, Meg came to me hoping I would have all the answers. It wasn’t too long before she realized the solutions came from within herself – and that hypnosis was a tool or mechanism for help drawing these truths to the surface.
Through a technique called “age regression,” Meg recognized she had inadvertently absorbed her mother’s insecurities about herself, her marriage, and her overall lack of independence as a woman. She began to challenge her mother’s fears and self-limiting perspective – and replaced them with more empowering thoughts and philosophies.
At a closer glance, Meg’s life looked and felt different than her mother’s. She had performed exquisitely well in her career and had experienced many opportunities for advancement prior to marrying her current husband.
After several sessions, Meg developed self-confidence.
She pursued a promotion – which represented her first step toward reclaiming her power and financial independence since marriage.
Inspired to take better care of her physical health, Meg began working with a personal trainer for assistance with nutrition and exercise. She no longer needed to mirror her own mother’s self-deprecating lifestyle and feelings of resentment. This more proactive and satisfying solution enabled her to lose weight and stabilize her mood while boosting her self-esteem and overall sense of well-being.
Next, Meg began scaling back on her volunteer work while increasing the amount of time she spent with women through yoga, hiking clubs, and other enjoyable endeavors. Just having balance back in her life and a female support system reduced her feelings of isolation and depression.
For the first time in a very long time, Meg had something to look forward to again.
The more Meg developed her own rules and criteria for living, the more confident and less trapped she began to feel.
A new territory… and it felt good.
After each session, Meg felt progressively lighter. Her behavior began to shift naturally and organically. Expressing her needs and expectations to her husband no longer provoked anxiety but was handled with incredible ease and grace.
She also began delegating household repairs and upkeep to contractors. This reduced Meg’s stress and freed up her time for more gratifying endeavors.
With every passing week, Meg felt less like a victim or prisoner of an unsatisfying life and more like an artist skillfully sculpting the life she most desired.
After one month of hypnosis, Meg decided to let go of two of her dead-end jobs and focus on the one job she most enjoyed. That same month, her boss gave her the promotion she sought – which expanded her role, her hours, and her pay.
The fear of financial survival without her partner was now beginning to dissipate. Everything was beginning to fall into place.
By letting go of some of the volunteer work that consumed most of her personal life, she had more personal time for recovery. For the first time in over a year, she felt a greater sense of peace and resolve regarding the death of her adopted son, as she had finally allowed herself to process and grieve.
Her focus shifted from anger, guilt, and sadness to acknowledging the joy and wisdom of her role on earth. The divine nature of her calling – to help others in crisis – was also reaffirmed.
Meg’s proactive approach began to permeate all areas of Meg’s life – from her parenting and marriage – to her career and social life. She felt more emotionally grounded and self-confident than ever before.
Living life on a new horizon.
Meg began to feel less concerned about the stigma of being divorced twice… and more engaged in her personal growth and well-being. Her physical energy had begun to return now that she hired a personal trainer who helped her lose weight and maintain a healthier diet. Her moods stabilized, and she was sleeping better.
Meg also felt less isolated and alone since choosing to cultivate and maintain better quality friendships, which mostly centered around the healing arts (yoga) and nature (hiking). She even felt inspired to continue her volunteer work, making sure she was more targeted with her time to avoid burn out.
Her life was beginning to regain the balance she had lost. She finally felt strong enough emotionally and physically to move forward with her divorce.
Yes, hypnosis can help you, too.
Many clients struggle with adjusting to major life transitions – divorce, empty nest, death of a loved one, career change, move to a new geographic area, etc.
Loss of confidence, emotional instability, or feeling unsupported in this new phase of life – are the kinds of things that spark a client’s desire to seek professional help.
The decision to try hypnosis versus talk therapy usually stems from the desire to go deeper in one’s treatment and recovery, tap into one’s inner wisdom and resiliency, and to do so in an efficient timeline – as this time, everything is at stake.
The pressure to recover is weighing heavily on you – with mounting life roles and responsibilities. You need to access the highest and best version of yourself and resurface fully invested.
The work we do in this space will permeate all areas of your life by removing barriers to recovery dating back to childhood. New insights will emerge when you identify and challenge old, disempowering thought patterns and replace them with healthier, less inhibiting thought patterns.
By tapping into the subconscious mind, you will experience the most epic shifts in attitude and behavior – naturally, organically, and in a way that resonates best with your soul.
Your new life is right around the corner.
You are emotionally exhausted, and at times you have difficulty believing any intervention will truly help. You know hypnosis works with simple, clear-cut goals like smoking cessation and weight loss; however, you are less certain it can address the more challenging life issues such as yours.
Rest assured that everything you’ve navigated in the past serves as the foundation for handling your current life circumstances – no matter how daunting it feels. Hypnosis pulls from a soul deep wisdom that knows no barriers and facilitates healing on all levels – emotional, physical, and spiritual. The most profound, metamorphic changes occur when one fully commits to this modality.
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